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Why I’m Not #blessed That Much Anymore

Why I’m Not #blessed That Much Anymore
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photo: Bruno Nascimento

Step back, my friends, and take a look at how we are using this word “blessed” because we are going to be embarrassed one day. I’m not just talking spinach in your teeth embarrassed. I’m talking skirt hiked up in the back and stuck in your pantyhose waistband embarrassed. (Ok. No one wears pantyhose anymore. I know, but work with me here.)

A quick search of #blessed showed someone with a car, a fight between two boxers, a whole lot of sports, a stack of cash, and a baby. Within 20 minutes, #blessed was used 78 times on Twitter.

I’m scratching my head and wondering: what in the world does it mean to be “blessed” anymore?

Better yet, what did it used to mean?

The Beatitudes
When Jesus saw the crowds, he went up the mountain. After he sat down his disciples came to him. Then he began to teach them by saying:
“Blessed are the poor in spirit, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to them.
“Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
“Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth.
“Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be satisfied.
“Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy.
“Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.
“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called the children of God.
“Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to them.
“Blessed are you when people insult you and persecute you and say all kinds of evil things about you falsely on account of me. Rejoice and be glad because your reward is great in heaven, for they persecuted the prophets before you in the same way. (Matthew 5:1-12, NET)

These verses show that those who are blessed are not the ones with the new cars, the granite countertops, or the football scholarship. Blessings are placed on those who are in right relationship with God, and the blessing is more of God. Blessing revolves around God.

I’m not trying to shame anyone who has used #blessed. For the most part, we have probably not put up a shot of our new shoes and then #blessed it. We use “blessed” when we are grateful for something we deem as a gift from God, something we couldn’t have gotten without his intervention.

I’ve referred to having children as being blessed. I’ve referred to finding a job as being blessed. I’ve referred to moving into my house as blessed.

Yet, Job 2 reminds us to accept the bad with the good. I’m not posting, “My car needs an expensive fix. #blessed.”

I’m focused on blessings when something good happens to me. But, when I only think of blessed when the good stuff happens, then I think of cursed when the bad stuff happens. That’s just not true.

Blessing revolves around your relationship with God, not your stuff, so you could post #blessed when it comes to the bad stuff too. You still have God, and He is still just as good.

Using #blessed, can also make others feel as if God is not good to them because they do not have this thing you have.

You have a #blessed new job. What of the friend who is reading it who just got laid off?

You are #blessed with a pregnancy. What of the friend who has years of infertility?

Am I just being too sensitive? Perhaps. But remember, blessing has to do with your relationship with God.

Are we to worry what others hear? Can’t they just understand what we mean?

Communication though is not just derived from the speaker. It is also derived from the listener. The old example of this is to think of the word, “trunk.” You may have imagined the trunk of a car, the trunk of a tree, or the trunk of an elephant just to name a few things. I speak the word “trunk,” but if i do not clearly let you know what I mean, you will find meaning in it yourself.

We #bless things we get, and others hear #notblessed as they look at their own lives.

So, I’m encouraging you to pull back on the #blessed unless you are speaking of that which revolves around God. Find other ways to state your thankful.

Or, just don’t tell us about it at all. Does the social media world really need to know about those new granite countertops or that new car that you were “blessed” by?

Ok, ok. I’ll step off all our toes now with an example of an appropriate usage of #blessed:

Comedian Davon Magwood once tweeted: “Caught a piece of bacon falling out of my sandwich right before it hit the ground. #blessed”

2 thoughts on “Why I’m Not #blessed That Much Anymore”

  • Jamie, I get what you are saying about using the work blessed in a superficial way; it can be overused until the meaning is shallow, not deep or meaningful. Thanks for bringing this out. But what about when someone wishes you a “blessed day”? That makes me feel wonderful, because it reminds me of the gift our Savior gave us. We are blessed when we know we are saved, and it certainly is not a trivial thing. As always, you are a sincere and thoughtful writer, and always remind me that we are here to follow His commands.

    • You are totally right. I don’t think it is always meant in such a shallow way, and I think wishing blessings upon someone else may be a bit different than calling out the blessings in your own life for others to notice. Thanks for pointing that out!

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